Is there anything quite as torturous as being head over heels in love with a man who doesn’t share what he’s feeling with you

Short of sitting him down and drilling him with questions about what’s in his heart, is there any sure way of gaining some insight into exactly what he’s feeling? There are actually a few ways to tell what’s going on with him just by playing closer attention to his actions.

A Man in Love Will Want to Spend Time with You

This seems straightforward enough but it’s actually something most women just don’t put enough significance on. If your man will do anything to spend an evening with you, including changing plans with friends or adjusting his work schedule, he’s definitely smitten. If the man you’re involved with has a constant list of excuses for why he can’t have dinner with you or see you on the weekend, that’s not someone who has devoted his heart to you yet.

If you’re in love with him all his excuses may seem plausible including his need to visit a sick friend in the hospital, his sudden desire to help his grandmother at her place or his big work project that came out of nowhere.

The fact is that if he loves you, you will be his main priority and he’ll put you first above all else. If that’s not happening, he may not love you as much as you believe he does.

A Man in Love Will Stop Dating Other Women

Have you and the man you adore discussed dating exclusively yet? Since you’re in love with him it has to be something that you think of constantly, right? You want this man all to yourself and if he loved you he’d want the same thing.

If you’ve been hearing rumors through the grapevine that he’s still seeing other women, don’t invest yourself so deeply into the relationship at this point. A man who is truly and deeply in love with a woman won’t want to see anyone else for the simple reason that they just don’t measure up to the woman he adores.

It’s important to discuss the idea of just dating one another with your man and it’s equally important that you pay special attention to his reaction. If he seems highly uncomfortable and repeatedly changes the subject, he’s not ready for anything more than a casual, non-exclusive dynamic.

A Man in Love Will Want You to Be a Part of His World

Most women have dated at least one man who seemed focused on keeping his life a mystery. This can be romantic to a point but when you start feeling as though he’s hiding his friends and family from you it moves into a place of emotional pain.

If a man is serious about a woman he wants to share her with everyone in his life. He wants to announce to those closest to him that he’s found someone beyond special.

Many men are actually a bit wary of introducing their dating partners to their friends simply because they don’t want there to be any awkwardness when they break up. Once a man does make the step towards introductions, that signifies that he has deeper feelings.

If you’ve been together for some time and you have yet to meet anyone in his life, that’s a clear sign that he still views you as someone he’s casually dating. If that’s what you feel, simply ask him about his friends and family and when you might meet them. If he shrugs the question off or says everyone he knows has a very busy life, he’s indicating that he’s not ready to take that step with you yet.

A Man in Love with Take the Initiative and Express His Feelings

How many times recently have you told your man you love him, only to be greeted with a “me too” in return? It’s a very telling barometer into the heart of any man. Typically a man isn’t going to want to proclaim his deep and abiding love to a woman until he actually feels those emotions. That’s why a man who isn’t completely and utterly in love will often just say, “me too” when the woman he’s with shares her feelings.

If you haven’t been paying attention to this in your own relationship, there’s a very easy test you can do right now that will help you understand where your guy’s heart is. Don’t tell him you love him at all for the next two weeks. Don’t utter the words in speech, don’t write them in text or email and don’t try and be sneaky by slipping in other words to replace “love.” No telling him you adore him or that he’s wonderful or special. Just stop sharing your feelings completely.

Now, all you have to do is wait to see whether he’ll share his. If you go the entire 14 days without him once telling you he loves you, chances are good that he doesn’t.

A man in love wants the woman he’s enamored with to know what he feels. He’ll repeat it as often as he can and he won’t wait for her to express it first.

If your man doesn’t mention what he feels for you unless you say something first, you need to be wary of how much you invest emotionally into your connection with him. Perhaps he’s just not as deeply in love with you yet, but there’s a chance that he’s not in love at all, and if that’s the case you don’t want to put even more of yourself into a relationship that he’s unsure he wants to be in.

Every woman in love obviously wants her man to feel the very same way. There are ways to trigger feelings of deep love and adoration in any man. Most women have no idea how to do this. Please read my story to learn what you can do now to change your relationship forever and get him to love you more than you ever imagined possible.

I’m not going to tell you that men and woman are dramatically different

Unfortunately, most men don’t view love from those same eyes. Men are more logical than us. They have minds that are more focused on putting all the pieces in order before claiming the prize. Your man may say he’s madly in love with you, but if something just isn’t falling into place the exact way he wants it too, he won’t pursue a long term, committed relationship with you.

That’s a bit shocking, isn’t it? It’s almost a challenge for most women to comprehend it. Men just need more information and rely on more logical data before they decide that they’ve found their life partner.

What’s Really Going On in a Man’s Mind in Terms of Commitment?

We’ve all heard the tired old jokes about all that a man loses when he transitions from being a boyfriend to being a husband. The phrase “ball and chain” comes to mind. The problem is that many men buy into that misconception. They believe that if they get down on one knee and pop the ultimate question that there days of enjoying their friends and their own interests will be over and done.

It’s up to you to subtly show him that marriage is just the next step in your already enriching relationship. If your man sees commitment with you as the icing on the cake of his life, he’s going to be the one calling up the wedding planner, picking out the invitations and booking the band.

It’s generally not terribly effective for a woman to simply announce to her man that their marriage will be everything he wants it to be and more. Obviously, in his mind he’s going to expect you to say that as your end goal is that fairytale complete with white picket fence and two children.

The same holds true if you start talking incessantly about how you feel that you two have been dating long enough and a commitment is the next step. If he’s not internally ready to take that step, he’ll switch his direction and step right through the door and out of your life.

Subtle Persuasion to Get Him to See The Value in Commitment

Your job, as the woman who loves her man, is to show him how much better his life will be once he does finally and fully commit to you. In order to do that you need to begin by showing him that you’re the woman of his dreams. You’ve already convinced yourself of this so now it’s time to show him.

If you can become not only the woman he desires, but his best friend, you’ll be winning major points in the push towards a more committed relationship. In order to do this you have to shed all your inhibitions that are geared towards not engaging in the things he likes. If he’s a rowdy football fan, why not spend one Sunday afternoon firmly seated beside him, cheering him on while he’s cheering his team to victory? Learn more about the books, the art and the hobbies that fuel him. Show him that you find his life interesting.

You’re also going to have to demonstrate to the man of your dreams, that commitment with you isn’t about what he’s going to lose but much more about what he will gain. Mention, in passing, all the things you want to do, independently of him, in the future. These can include career goals, trips you’re hoping to take with girlfriends or even volunteer opportunities.

If your man senses that you’re not willing to compromise who you are as an independent and dynamic woman, he’ll be more inclined to consider a deeper commitment because his core self won’t feel as threatened.

Commitment, whether it’s a more serious relationship or marriage is within your grasp. You have the insight to get him to want to be your committed partner moving forward. There is an excellent video that explains exactly what many men feel in relation to commitment and the steps any woman can take to harness his committed nature and get him wanting more and more.

Don’t allow your dreams of a committed bond with your man to slip away. This is your guy, he’s the one for you – you feel that deep within your heart.  Watch the video to learn how to get the relationship and future with him that you’ve been dreaming of. Don’t settle for anything less.

Show Him You Adore Him Exactly as He Is

One major complaint that many men have about their romantic partner is that she’s constantly, subtly or not-so-subtly, trying to change him. As women, we know how incredible it is when a man accepts us just as we are. We love that, we need that and we feel undeniably loved when we find that. You need to create that very same feeling within your man if you want him to feel emotionally connected to you at the deepest level. To do that, start celebrating him for exactly who he is. Don’t make small suggestions about how he should dress, the way he acts or the career path he’s chosen to follow. If you make him feel loved and adored for who he is today, flaws and all, he’s going to see you as someone very special.

You need to remember that a normal part of the give and take of every relationship is that both individuals try and sculpt their partner into who they want them to be. If you drop all of that, and instead tell him, constantly and on a regular basis, how much you love him and each and every one of his imperfections, he’ll see you as a rare treasure.

Be Secure in Who You Are and the Relationship

Insecurity can be a deal breaker when it comes to finding and keeping an emotional connection. We view jealousy in such a different way than men do. Men don’t find it romantic when the women they’re involved with works herself into a tizzy because he talked to another female. They don’t find it enchanting when you pull him away from an old friend just because she’s a woman. In our romantic fairytale imaginings we love it when a man acts territorial because we equate that with love and adoration. Men see it as possessiveness and lack of self esteem.

Be confident in who you are and in what you bring to the relationship as a mutual equal. If he sees that you don’t bat an eyelash when he talks about a female co-worker or he senses you’re fine when he hangs out with a group of friends, that includes a few women, he’ll be more taken with you than you ever imagined.

Showing a man that you believe in him and you believe in your suitability as a perfect partner for him, is very powerful. All men secretly want a woman who knows deep within herself, that there isn’t anyone else out there whose hand and heart could fit with his quite as well.

Encourage Him to Open Up to You Emotionally

It’s crucial that you show the man you love that you can and want to be his emotional safe spot in the world. We all need one person we can rely on who won’t judge us, who will listen to us and who will comfort us when life gets tough. You have to ensure that you are that person for the man you’re with.

To do that, listen to him intently whenever he shares anything with you regarding what he’s feeling. Never discount what he feels even if it seems insignificant to you. Try to respond in a way that shows him that you value what he feels.

Work with him to overcome any emotional difficulties that he may be facing, even if it’s something that isn’t related to the two of you at all. Men love when a woman jumps into the emotional trenches with them to work out an employment issue or a problem with a friend.

By becoming his emotional safe harbor, you’ll be building a bond that will be difficult for anyone to break. Stay patient, be kind and show him that no one cares about him and his feelings more than you.

You have the power to create a life changing connection with your man. It’s all about gaining insight into what he feels, how he thinks and the things he wants and needs for you. Take a moment to watch this video that will give you a startling glimpse into the mind of the man you love. Be prepared to be surprised by what you learn!

Why is it that some women seem to have a magical power over men

The key to having any man you desire is to understand men as a whole. Obviously every man in the world is somewhat unique and brings his own special talents to the table, but at their core all men want the very same things from the woman they’re involved with. They want to be understood, first and foremost. That sounds easy enough and you may already feel that you have a finger on your man’s internal, emotional pulse, but do you really? Men aren’t as complicated as we make them out to be.  In fact, virtually any woman can have the man she wants once she understands his emotional needs.

All men strive for a calm and centered relationship that will help them feel balance and fulfilled. That sounds very similar to what we, as women, want, doesn’t it? The problem is that men aren’t as expressive or vocal about it. They tend to keep their needs to themselves and that leaves us failing trying to figure out what step to take next. It’s the main reason we make so many illogical missteps as we are working towards a committed and devoted connection. We think we know what he needs, so we give it to him only to discover it makes him uncomfortable or feeling trapped.

Men want a partner who is drama free. As much as you get upset by his refusal to commit to something more serious, don’t run that complaint around the block too many times. If a woman continually brings drama into the dynamic with her man, he’s going to emotionally check out of the relationship before long. He wants to know that when he sees you, you’ll be happy and thrilled to be spending time with him. He doesn’t want to continually be confronted with someone who is on edge and looking for a conflict. Unless it’s a major issue that needs to be resolved right this minute, let it go.

Men want to be themselves. When we find a man who makes our heart beat faster we instinctively start thinking about the future. It’s expected after all. Good men aren’t coming our way every day of the week, are they? They are few and far between. It’s natural to want him to be the best he can possibly be but if that means trying to change him, he’s probably not going to want much to do with you for very long. Men have flaws, just as we do and they want to be with someone who embraces those flaws. Take him as he is and start viewing his flaws as appealing character traits.

Men want an authentic woman. Trying to fit into the ideal of what you believe your man wants isn’t going to get you much but a broken relationship. All women strive to put their best foot forward as they begin a new relationship but in some cases, they try very hard to fit into someone else’s shoes. You have to be who you are and you have to show your man that you’re more than happy with that. No one is perfect and a man in love will find those imperfections utterly appealing. Don’t ever change who you are to fit into who you think he wants you to be. He doesn’t want that. He just wants someone who loves herself and loves him.

By accepting your guy for who he is, not bringing along too much drama when you see him and loving who you are, you’ll be setting yourself up to appeal to him in the most direct and powerful ways. Men may seem terribly confusing on the surface, but deep down within their masculine hearts they just want a woman to love them, cherish them and adore them. Be that for your guy and he’ll see you as irreplaceable.

Most of us have struggled within our relationships and have made some crucial mistakes. It’s understandable given the fact that we don’t always truly understand what our man needs or wants from us. There is actually a way to understand your man to his emotional core – to know what he’s thinking and feeling and to do all that without him having to say a word to you. Watch this free video to learn more about your man.

There is a way to find out the real truth about how he feels about you.

What Your Man Wants From You

We all think we know what our man wants. We think that because we go on the assumption that our man wants the very same things as we do from the relationship. That’s generally our first mistake when it comes to love.

You believe that he wants you to call him several times throughout the day because you’d be tickled pink if he did that for you, right? You love making him dinner because you’d be beside yourself if you came home even once to find dinner prepared just for you. The sad fact is that your man doesn’t want the same things from the relationship as you do.

There is no possible way you can really gain insight into your man by talking about him with your girlfriends. We’ve all been guilty of this. We share some of the intimate emotional details of our relationship with a friend. Inevitably she’ll say that her guy behaves the same way and we’ll take her safe advice to heart. The part that she leaves out is that her advice did nothing for her own relationship and it’s likely going to do little for yours.

If you want to understand your man’s mind, who should you go to for advice? A man! That’s why a male friend can be so invaluable, even a brother or a cousin. Men just think differently than we do and you need a male voice of reason to tell you exactly what’s going on.

You can see exactly what I mean by watching this informative video all about what men think and feel about the women they love.

How to Make a Man Yours Forever

Once you’ve captured the heart of the man of your dreams, what’s next? If you’re like me and most women on this earth, you rest on your laurels a bit. In other words, you take so much comfort and security in the fact that he loves you that you stop putting in any effort. The relationship will coast along wonderfully for a time until you hit a bump in the road. It’s then that the relationship make it or break it times is upon you.

If you want to make a man yours forever, you have to continually stay emotionally connected to him. You have to follow the emotional ebb and flow that he sets and learn how to adjust yourself accordingly.

We often get set in our ways when it comes to love and we expect our man to cater to what we need but any relationship is filled with give and take and just as you want him to give you his love you have to take responsibility for your part and your actions.

Men secretly want many things from the woman they’re with. They want a safe spot in the oceans of life that they can count on. Every man is going to face challenges in life and if he has a woman in his corner who is always cheering him on, he feels like a winner. Men also want to be emotionally raw and open. I know this may seem foreign given how your man acts with you sometimes, but even when a man is closing a woman off after an argument there’s some pretty heavy emotions at play.

He also wants you to be secure in the relationship. He wants you to feel that he loves you even if he’s not constantly telling you. This is the reason why men get so annoyed when we show some jealousy about other women. He expects you to know that he’s not interested in her and when you act as though you don’t trust him, it speaks to your own self esteem and that’s an area a man has trouble treading into.

Most of all your man wants you to innately understand him. He wants you to know when he needs a hug or he just needs you to sit quietly and supportive in the distance. Obviously it’s sometimes hard to know exactly what he needs but with the right guidance and insight you can learn to anticipate everything he feels and that will ensure you’ll be the one person he feels closest to forever.

Watch this video to learn more about your man and what you need to do to get him to love you always.

Most men lie to the woman they’re involved with. They lie about things that seem inconsequential to them and also things that are monumental. We don’t really understand that. If you’re trying to build a foundation that will withstand the trials of the future, why lie to the person you’re with? Men are finally coming clean with the reasons they do lie and you can finally get a glimpse into the male mind like any other you’ve ever had.

I’ve blogged about Michael Fiore in the past (for good reason – this man is like a genie when it comes to relationships and making them everything you want them to be.) If you don’t know who he is, Michael is a relationship expert who has helped thousands of women just like you understand men. Michael has even had the pleasure of being on Rachael Ray’s show where he talked about romance and connection.

Michael is a man (obviously) so when he talks, we’d all do well to listen. Who better to learn about relationships from than a man since we’re all in love with a man or looking for one? Michael says that there are actually 3 main reasons why men lie to the woman they’re with. (Two of those reasons aren’t that notable and are actually quite innocent. The other reason is actually shocking.)

Is Your Man Scared of You Emotionally?

Michael says that a man will often lie to a woman because he’s scared of her!

That doesn’t mean that the man you’re with is scared of you physically. It means that that he’s scared of your emotions.

This may sound foreign to you as a woman, but emotions are actually harder for men to deal with and to recover from. Basically men struggle more with their emotions over a longer period of time than we do.

If you think about it for a moment, you’ll see just how much it makes sense. Think about how some women will burst into tears over something and then just a few minutes later, she’s got a smile on her face and whatever upset her is now in the past.

It’s very different for men. They’re actually much more fragile than we are. It’s been suggested that the difference is because of evolution. Men think in a very singular way. They’re hunters who push aside everything but what they’re hunting. The “hunting” may be anything from work, to chasing after you to watching the big game. Because of that singular way of processing things, men are much slower to get to an emotional state than we, as women, are. Consequentially, men are also much slower to get out of that emotional state once they finally reach it.

A great analogy is swimming. For us, as women, getting “emotional” is a lot like jumping off a dock into a lake. We know we’ll get wet but we also recognize that the dock is so close that we can quickly get out and dry off.

Men don’t see it the same way at all. For a man, getting “emotional” is more akin to getting pushed into the middle of the ocean and then left there alone. A man feels as though he’s treading water endlessly and there is no rescue ship or shore in sight.

It may seem as though I’ve gotten off the track of why men lie, but bear with me a bit.

How to Finally Know What He Really Feels!

Men are taught, from the time they are very young that if they tell women the truth, that we’ll get upset, and we’ll flood them with scary emotions. Those emotions which typically include crying, anger, frustration and silence push a man out into that ocean where he’ll feel stuck alone for hours and hours.

Obviously there are other reasons that men lie too and other mysteries of that men that the “guys” in your life simply never tell you about.

If you want more understanding of men, you should take a few minutes to watch this video that Michael Fiore has just released. It gives you “X Ray Vision” into the minds of men and tells you all about an astonishing new program that Michael created that answers ever question you’ve ever had about men and the way they think.

For instance, Michael explains what your man really thinks about you and why men are often so awkward with showing us how they really feel. He also goes into detail about why your guy looks at other attractive women and what he really thinks about when he’s doing that. He also touches on why men cheat and how you can steal away your man’s desire to be unfaithful just by saying a few words to him.

I know I’m not doing this justice so I invite you to watch this free video that better explains Michael’s findings.

I should tell you that Michael is very direct in his delivery of this information. He’s committed to helping women and men nurture stronger connections so he gets right to the heart of the issues. It’s so informative and helpful that I really encourage you to take just a few moments to watch the video and see for yourself what all the buzz is about.

This clearly isn’t about how to trick him into loving you or what dress to wear to catch his attention. This is gritty, real and is all about how to get so deep inside his mind that you see the relationship from his vantage point. Once you do that you’ll understand him so well that you’ll be able to predict his next move, integrate yourself into his heart and make him feel deeply connected to you in a most profound way.

Take care and keep believing in yourself.

How to make him want you more is a question that many women wish they had an easy answer to.

Here are a few tips to make him want you more:

Be genuine – always, no exceptions. You know all those dating games we’re taught to play in our teenage years? The ones focused on playing hard to get, and pretending to like the same things he does, block those from your memory now. They don’t work. Men want and need the woman they’re involved with to be genuine. He wants to see the real you – flaws and all. If you don’t like a certain genre of movies, tell him. Don’t subject yourself to having to sit through dozens of action flicks if they make your skin crawl. The same is true of your feelings, be honest. This takes us onto the next tip…

Be honest with your feelings, but don’t come on too strong. Falling in love is amazing, isn’t it? There are those moments when you just know that this guy is something special. You feel different, you feel happy and you start envisioning a life with the two of you headed down an aisle towards wedded bliss. You may see that in your imaginary crystal ball but don’t talk commitment too soon. Men really love being with a woman who lives in the moment. He doesn’t want to hear you talking about what the two of you are going to be doing a year or two from now. He wants you to love loving him this instant. Your relationship will progress if you embrace it for what it is.

Be emotionally there for him. Your guy wants to feel as though he can count on you emotionally. He wants to know that if he’s feeling down or depressed, that you’re going to be there to pick him back up. He also wants to feel as though you understand him emotionally. If you can be his shoulder to cry on and the person who brings a smile to his face, you’re going to grab a place in his heart. Men are just as emotionally vulnerable as we are and they want to feel safe with the woman they’re with. Don’t make fun of him ever in an emotional sense or discount anything he’s feeling. That will only serve to push him away and sometimes when a man feels emotionally bruised, he’ll distance himself forever from the woman who caused that.

Be fun and keep drama to a minimum. As women we tend to be victims of a great deal of drama. It’s not that we’re always searching for it but inevitably it finds us. It may be an issue with a friend, maybe jealousy poking its evil head where it doesn’t belong or perhaps it’s just a problem with a co-worker that’s been blown out of proportion. If you share every little issue with the man you’re involved with, that relationship may not last. Men want to help the women they care about solve their problems but when it’s one issue after another, they don’t find that appealing at all. He wants to be with a woman who is carefree and fun and someone who can handle her crisis on her own. Don’t bring a bunch of emotional baggage to your dates.

Remember that your guy wants you to be you. He wants you to enjoy spending time with him and he wants the genuine woman you are inside and out. Keep smiling, enjoy the experiences you two share and be there when he needs you. That’s what he wants from you most of all.

You can have the relationship of your dreams with the man you love and adore. Understanding what he wants and needs from you is the way to his heart. Learn more about how I discovered the secret to true love here.

Become a Challenge to Him

You’ve probably read loads of advice that tells you that you need to be the doting, devoted partner that your man craves. Of course it’s important that you show him that he’s the only man for you but you shouldn’t do that at the risk of your own agenda. A man isn’t nearly as attracted to a woman who blatantly throws herself at his feet as he is to a woman who makes him work for her affection. If you’re constantly right there, always available for him, he’s going to grow bored of you reasonably quickly. You have to give him a bit of a challenge. That means you must keep him on his proverbial toes. Easy ways to do this, that are VERY effective, are to not rush to answer each and every time he calls and don’t always be available. Give him some room to wonder where you are from time-to-time and make him work to get your attention. Men love this.

Speak Your Mind and Voice Your Opinions

Have you ever knowingly agreed with a man about something that you had a strong, differing opinion on? Most of us have been guilty of this occasionally and we don’t really understand the full consequences of it. Your man doesn’t want you to be a puppet that follows his lead. Men love women who intelligent, informed and opinionated. That’s not to say that he wants you to be argumentative or disagree with everything he says. He does want you to speak your mind and express how you view things. Don’t shy away from a debate with a man you love because you’re worried that he’ll suddenly lose interest in you. The opposite is more likely to happen. He’ll see the fire in your eyes and he’ll respect you more for sharing how you view the subject of hand. Never let him think that your opinion aligns with his if it doesn’t. Not only is this selling yourself short but it’s setting yourself up for potential conflict later on when he makes decisions for the two of you based on the misinformation you provided him.

Don’t Chase After a Commitment Too Soon

Falling in love is such a magical feeling, isn’t it? Women tend to fall in love a bit faster than men do. We start to see visions of wedding planners and bridal dresses before he’s even decided if he wants to date exclusively. It’s therefore incredibly important that you pace yourself when it comes to pursuing a commitment from him. If you’re thinking about how to make a man love you this is essential information to bear in mind in the early stages of your developing relationship. If you tell him that you think he “may be the one,” he may actually run for the nearest exit. The same is true if you question him about why he glanced at a pretty woman who walked by. Even though you may want him to “belong” to you, he doesn’t. He’s his own person and therefore he’s allowed to look in any direction he pleases. If you can temper all the overwhelming emotions you are experiencing and instead just enjoy his company in the moment, he’ll feel closer to you. The main reason is he won’t be feeling any type of emotional pressure from you which would put him on guard. Instead, he feels relaxed and he senses that you are too so he’ll let himself feel whatever comes naturally. You want and need for that to happen so keep all thoughts of marriage, weddings and children to yourself, for now.

It’s actually very easy for a woman to create an unbreakable emotional bond with any man she chooses. You can learn how to make a man love you and never want to leave you. If he’s the guy for you, gain the insight you need to pull him closer and make him want you endlessly.

The Reasons Men Don’t Say “I Love You”

There are several notable reasons why your guy may not be willing to tell you he loves you. See if you can identify with any of these:

He’s actually not in love yet. Men don’t fall in love at the same pace we do. It takes them longer to feel that undeniable connection with a woman. Even though you may have felt the stirrings of love a few weeks after meeting him, he may still be in the infatuation stage.

He’s scared because of past difficult experiences. If your guy was in a serious relationship in the past that didn’t end well, he won’t be too quick to put himself out there again. He may have told his last girlfriend how deeply in love with her he was, and then she cheated or dumped him. Granted you’re a different person than her, but his feelings may reflect what he felt back then. If that’s the case, it’s all about showing him that you’re trustworthy and honourable.

He’s concerned you’ll want a commitment too soon. When you tell a man that you love him, you’re doing it with intention, yes? We all do. We tell our man how we feel because we want him to understand that we’re devoted to him. When a man tells a woman he loves her, it’s sometimes accompanied with concern. Some men worry that if they tell the woman they’re involved with that they love her, that she’ll be anticipating a proposal very soon. It’s obviously a big step to go from declaring your love to marriage. If he senses that you want to speed up the commitment clock, he’ll hesitate with sharing how he feels so make it crystal clear that you’re not on the fast track towards marriage.

Enjoy Today and Your Connection with Him

The biggest favour you can do for both you and your man is enjoy the relationship for what it is. If you don’t apply any emotional pressure, he’s going to be that much more willing to give you his heart. Men fall in love with women who already have full, happy and content lives. He doesn’t want to feel as though he’s the last piece to complete your life puzzle, even if you view him that way.

If you love him, and he has yet to say it, don’t share those words with him just yet. Let him set the pace and let him do it when he’s ready. Until then, embrace the connection, be the best partner you can be and relax. Sometimes love has its own timetable.

I struggled in my relationship with my man at one point and it wasn’t easy. I share more about how I strengthened our connection and made him feel incredibly connected to me here.

• Don’t let him know everything about you too soon. I know exactly how it is when you meet a man you think may be the “one” for you. You want to share everything you possibly can with him. You’re more than willing to lay out all your life goals for him to critique and you have no issues with telling him every small detail about what happens in your day-to-day life. He doesn’t want it to be that easy. You should pace yourself always in your relationship. Don’t hand him you on a silver platter. Keep him guessing about who you really are and what your real story is. If you can subtly do that he’s going to stick around forever just to see what the next surprise is.
• Don’t overlook the power of spontaneity. Men utterly adore women who can change their plans at the last split second. They also adore women who aren’t afraid to jump head first into a new adventure just for the thrill of it. If you’re the type of girl who prefers to sit at home, watching romantic comedies with her guy, you may find yourself single again before you know it. Plan some outings that he’d never expect from you. You’ll hypnotize him if you do. He’ll find you intoxicating because he won’t know what to expect next.
• Don’t agree with everything he says, just because. Virtually all women have been guilty of this at some point in a relationship. Because you don’t want to “rock the relationship boat” you agree with what your guy says about something, when your own opinion is strongly different. Men want honesty from the women they involve themselves with. He doesn’t want a mindless arm trophy who agrees with him just because she wants him to love her. He’s not going to love you if you aren’t yourself. Speak up, debate your position and argue your point. The fact that you stay true to what you believe in is the one thing that he’s going to find irresistible in you.
• Don’t be dramatic, at all, ever. Women are naturally dramatic. I know I am. It’s easy to get caught up in the drama of virtually any situation. When you get a group of women together, you’re going to witness drama at its ultimate. The problem is that men have no purpose for this. They don’t have the time or the patience to deal with drama. In fact, some men will actually end a relationship if they feel there is indeed too much drama. That’s why it’s crucial that you calm down and take things easy. Don’t let the small things get to you. He’ll find it refreshing and unusual and that’s a very good thing.
• Don’t chase commitment too soon. Most women want to seal the deal when they meet a man they are crazy about. We want to move from casual dating, to dating exclusively, to moving in together, an engagement and then a wedding all within a year or two. There’s absolutely no reason to rush anything if you’ve found a man you really enjoy spending time with. Chances are good that he feels a strong connection with you as well. Take things at their own pace and don’t launch into any discussions about commitment in any form until he does first.

By following these simple, straightforward rules you’ll be able to keep him that much more interested in you. Just be positive, honest and always your genuine self. That’s what he wants most of all.

Please follow this link to read more about my personal love story and how I was able to develop the love of my dreams with the man I absolutely and utterly adore.