Captivate and Keep Your Man
How to Make Any Man Fall in Love with You
If you are anything like me, you’ve been head over heels crazy for a man who seemed to “like” you. That was the story with my boyfriend. I could have spent all day, every day with him. He, on the other hand, didn’t seem to remember I existed half the time. It was annoying and frustrating. It’s not easy being in love with a man who doesn’t feel the same way.
I tried everything in my power to get him more interested. I dressed in provocative clothing, I cooked extravagant meals – I even wrote him love letters. I’d get an occasional – “you look great” or “thanks for that.” Nothing more.
I knew I needed to change something. Other single friends all had their own jewels of advice that ranged from dating another man to make him jealous to giving him an ultimatum. Since most of them were also struggling in their own relationships, I knew I needed better guidance than that.
I don’t know why it didn’t dawn on me sooner- if I want to get under a man’s skin – become the woman he thinks about constantly -I had to learn exactly what it is men want from a woman.
I was at a point where I had nothing to lose – I wasn’t happy with the way the relationship was progressing – and he wasn’t about to change on his own.
If you love a man and want to make him your own – you need to understand what triggers the feelings of love in a man. Once you understand this, you’ll be able to draw him in – hook, line and sinker.
Oh and that man I was dating – is now my husband.
What Won’t Make Him Love You
Put These on Your Do-Not-Do List!
As women we’re often brought up to believe we have to be perfect to find the man of our dreams. That’s rubbish. I know because I was one of the women who strived for perfection for years. It didn’t get me the man of my dreams. It did make me miserable though. I wasn’t being myself.
Here’s a list of things you shouldn’t be doing in an effort to make a man fall in love with you:
Cater to his every need. There’s a great chance that if you do this – cater to every whim of a man, he’s going to stick around. But it’s not because you are the woman for him, it’s because you’ll do anything he wants. NEVER cook a man dinner every night. NEVER do his laundry if you are dating. NEVER clean his apartment for him and NEVER run over to his place simply because he’s feeling frisky.
Change your appearance for him. If you wear pink lipstick and the man you are dating says he prefers red, don’t convert. If you do you are showing him that you are easily manipulated. Men like a woman with her own mind. Don’t change who you are just because there’s something about you he doesn’t automatically like.
Act like his mother. Don’t treat any man you are dating like a child. This means no calling him all the time. Don’t ask him where he’s been if you haven’t heard from him in a while and never tell him to button up his coat if it’s cold outside. He already has a mother, he doesn’t want you to be one too.
Assume he knows what you want. Men can’t read minds. Their minds also don’t operate the same way yours does. If you expect a man to know what you want from him, you’ll always be disappointed.
If you want to get a man to sit up and take notice of only you, you need to understand how to become irresistible to him.
Long Term Dating
Knowing Whether He’ll Ever Pop THE Question
As women we tend to be very patient – too patient sometimes. We’ll wait and wait for the man we are dating to first utter those three 
words we long to hear ‘I love you’ followed by a close second ‘let’s get married.’
The problem is that some of us wait, and wait, and wait. Months, then years pass and the most we get from our guy is the occasional ‘you’re cool’ or ‘you’re a lot of fun.’ Futures aren’t build on fun alone.
There are easy ways to tell if your relationship is headed for something more substantial or if he’s considers you his girlfriend or in some cases girl friend.
If a man is even considering a deeper commitment with a woman, he’ll do at least one of the following:
Introduce her to his family. I’ve dated men who seemed to be orphans. I’d wait patiently to meet his family, only to discover he was keeping them at arm’s length from me. Men want their parents and siblings to meet a woman they are in love with. If he’s keeping you away from them, it’s not a good sign.
He’ll keep in close touch. He may not call like clockwork but he won’t let too much time pass without hearing your voice or seeing you. When a man is really interested in a woman, he’ll also want to know what’s going on in her life – all the small, seemingly boring details will be interesting to him. An in-the-moment man will usually call and ask if you’re busy. The reason being he’s got a few minutes to fit you into his schedule and he’s in a frisky mood.
He has a savings account. If the man you are involved with is often asking you to buy him dinner, or he makes excuses about not having enough money to buy you a holiday, Valentine’s or birthday gift, he’s not thinking long term. When marriage is on a man’s mind he is saving for the future.
If you want to know how to get a man to commit to you -find out how to ensure he can’t live without you.
How to Make Him Devoted to You
Awaken His Emotional Core
Men hold onto their hearts longer, at the beginning of a relationship, than women do. I bet you can attest to that, within your own relationship. To us, as women, falling in love is very easy. We’re enthralled when we meet a man we feel an instant connection with. We want it to work because love is the one thing we all desire. It’s a constant in our dreams of a happy and fulfilling life. It adds to our spirits and gives us hope that our life is going to be enriching and rewarding.
That vision of true love isn’t the same for men. Men are much more cautious with their hearts. They take their time falling in love, they’re much more fickle and they wait a lot longer to reveal what they feel to us.
It’s hard not to get caught up in what you’re feeling. I’ve done this in some of my past relationships. I’ve been so overwhelmed with the promise of falling in love that I’ve told the man I cared for, very early in the relationship, that I envisioned a beautiful future as his wife. It caused him to pull back and in one case, he just disappeared from my life.
I’ve also made the crucial mistake of asking, or rather pleading, with my man to share what he feels. “Do you love me?” is one of those 
questions most women ask far too often. Men want to share what they feel, but on their own schedule, at their own pace and in their own way.
If you don’t handle a man in just the right way, you may soon discover that he’s emotionally vacant and dismissive. This hurts. It leads to resentment and inevitably a once, very promising connection slowly dies a painful emotional death.
So, is there a way to avoid all of this? Can you, as a vibrant, desirable and appealing woman make a man fall so deeply in love that he’ll never even entertain the idea of leaving you? Absolutely!
Understanding his core emotional triggers will give you the insight you need to become irresistible to any man you choose. You can learn more about that, including how to build an unbreakable emotional bond with by watching this insightful video.
Until you truly and fully understand your man and how he thinks and feels, your relationship is not going to be as strong and loving as you want it to be. To learn what men really (and secretly) want from the women they’re involved with, watch the video. The understanding you gain is going to change your outlook on men, how you interact with your man and your love life forever.
If You’re No Longer With the Man You Love
Get Him Back and Deeper in Love with You
If you already have a man in your life that you love deeply and the relationship isn’t everything you want it to be, it can be incredibly frustrating. He might be unwilling to be exclusive or he just seems to waffle on whether he even wants to be in a relationship. 
Perhaps he’s told you that he needs time or space and has broken up with you.
As women we tend to think that all we need to do is share our feelings with the man in our life and he’ll react in a positive way and be drawn in. The biggest problem with this is that men don’t respond to words the same way we do. Imagine after a break up or during a conflict your boyfriend says “I’m sorry for all this, what really matters is that I love you more than I’ve ever loved anyone.” I know I’d melt if I heard this. Men don’t melt when a woman says this to them, they rarely even flinch.
It’s all about actions. The things you do are what will either make him want to devote himself to you entirely or make him want to leave the relationship for good.
Find out now what you need to be doing – not saying – to get the man in your life to love you deeply now. Most women don’t realize that their actions in the days and weeks following a break up determine whether or not they’ll get that second chance they want. This is true regardless if you are with a man that you want a deeper commitment with or if you’re going through a break up and you want him back.
If your boyfriend or your ex boyfriend is the man for you -DON’T LET HIM GET AWAY! It’s guaranteed to work. Love is rare please don’t let it slip through your fingers.
Additional Resources
Helpful Tools for Women
Rousing the Lion A hypnotic approach to capturing the unwavering love of a man. Unique and effective ideas for getting him to fall helplessly in love with you.
Text the Romance Back Do you want to learn how to create an intimate emotional channel between you and your man? Text the Romance from Michael Fiore is exactly what you need.
Increase Your Sensuality Men love a woman who is confident and adventurous in intimate situations. Fantastic resource for any woman who wants to wow her man behind closed doors.
Helpful Romance Advice
Gillian’s Weekly Tip to Help You Get the Relationship of Your Dreams
May 1, 2013 – As tempting as it is to tell a man exactly how crazy you are about him, you really want to think twice before you do that. Women often feel a close connection with a man soon after meeting him. We all seem to have that inner voice that tells us when the man we’ve met may be the one. Men, on the other hand, don’t have that voice speaking to them at all. They are usually much more focused on intimacy than love or the future. That’s why it’s essential that you don’t rush into pouring your emotions out to him. If you tell him that you think you’re falling in love on the second or third date, he’s likely going to get spooked and rush for the door. Play it slow and simple in the beginning. Don’t bring any heavy emotions into the mix and don’t show him exactly what you’re feeling. This will ensure that he keeps guessing about what is going on with you and that’s exactly what you want. If he isn’t sure you’re falling for him yet, he’s going to go into overdrive to make it happen.
How He Decides if You’re the Woman for Him! Insight into His Mind
I’m not going to tell you that men and woman are dramatically different. You already know that. I am going to tell you that we view love very differently than our male counterparts do. For us, as women, the thing that generally makes us want to plan a future with a man is that we fall hopelessly in love. We judge that by the fact that we are so enamored with our man that we can’t even think straight. All other men drop out of our view and this man becomes the epitome of what happily-ever-after looks like. We base all of that on feelings – our raw emotions that tell us, internally, that he’s the one.
Unfortunately, most men don’t view love from those same eyes. Men are more logical than us. They have minds that are more focused on putting all the pieces in order before claiming the prize. Your man may say he’s madly in love with you, but if something just isn’t falling into place the exact way he wants it too, he won’t pursue a long term, committed relationship with you.
That’s a bit shocking, isn’t it? It’s almost a challenge for most women to comprehend it. Men just need more information and rely on more logical data before they decide that they’ve found their life partner.
What’s Really Going On in a Man’s Mind in Terms of Commitment?
We’ve all heard the tired old jokes about all that a man loses when he transitions from being a boyfriend to being a husband. The phrase “ball and chain” comes to mind. The problem is that many men buy into that misconception. They believe that if they get down on one knee and pop the ultimate question that there days of enjoying their friends and their own interests will be over and done.
It’s up to you to subtly show him that marriage is just the next step in your already enriching relationship. If your man sees commitment with you as the icing on the cake of his life, he’s going to be the one calling up the wedding planner, picking out the invitations and booking the band.
It’s generally not terribly effective for a woman to simply announce to her man that their marriage will be everything he wants it to be and more. Obviously, in his mind he’s going to expect you to say that as your end goal is that fairytale complete with white picket fence and two children.
The same holds true if you start talking incessantly about how you feel that you two have been dating long enough and a commitment is the next step. If he’s not internally ready to take that step, he’ll switch his direction and step right through the door and out of your life.
Subtle Persuasion to Get Him to See The Value in Commitment
Your job, as the woman who loves her man, is to show him how much better his life will be once he does finally and fully 
commit to you. In order to do that you need to begin by showing him that you’re the woman of his dreams. You’ve already convinced yourself of this so now it’s time to show him.
If you can become not only the woman he desires, but his best friend, you’ll be winning major points in the push towards a more committed relationship. In order to do this you have to shed all your inhibitions that are geared towards not engaging in the things he likes. If he’s a rowdy football fan, why not spend one Sunday afternoon firmly seated beside him, cheering him on while he’s cheering his team to victory? Learn more about the books, the art and the hobbies that fuel him. Show him that you find his life interesting.
You’re also going to have to demonstrate to the man of your dreams, that commitment with you isn’t about what he’s going to lose but much more about what he will gain. Mention, in passing, all the things you want to do, independently of him, in the future. These can include career goals, trips you’re hoping to take with girlfriends or even volunteer opportunities.
If your man senses that you’re not willing to compromise who you are as an independent and dynamic woman, he’ll be more inclined to consider a deeper commitment because his core self won’t feel as threatened.
Commitment, whether it’s a more serious relationship or marriage is within your grasp. You have the insight to get him to want to be your committed partner moving forward. There is an excellent video that explains exactly what many men feel in relation to commitment and the steps any woman can take to harness his committed nature and get him wanting more and more.
Don’t allow your dreams of a committed bond with your man to slip away. This is your guy, he’s the one for you – you feel that deep within your heart. Watch the video to learn how to get the relationship and future with him that you’ve been dreaming of. Don’t settle for anything less.
You Love Him, But You’re Not Sure How He Feels! Insight Into Your Man’s Heart
Is there anything quite as torturous as being head over heels in love with a man who doesn’t share what he’s feeling with you? It’s hard for any woman to be in this situation. You feel so connected to him and he keeps his emotions close to his vest. Over time it can become discouraging for any woman to be in this situation because you can never be really sure of where you stand. You don’t know if he sees a future with you, you can’t tell if he’s on the brink of suggesting a more serious commitment and you never know when he may just announce he’s not in love with you and he’s on his way out the door.
Short of sitting him down and drilling him with questions about what’s in his heart, is there any sure way of gaining some insight into exactly what he’s feeling? There are actually a few ways to tell what’s going on with him just by playing closer attention to his actions.
A Man in Love Will Want to Spend Time with You
This seems straightforward enough but it’s actually something most women just don’t put enough significance on. If your man will do anything to spend an evening with you, including changing plans with friends or adjusting his work schedule, he’s definitely smitten. If the man you’re involved with has a constant list of excuses for why he can’t have dinner with you or see you on the weekend, that’s not someone who has devoted his heart to you yet.
If you’re in love with him all his excuses may seem plausible including his need to visit a sick friend in the hospital, his sudden desire to help his grandmother at her place or his big work project that came out of nowhere.
The fact is that if he loves you, you will be his main priority and he’ll put you first above all else. If that’s not happening, he may not love you as much as you believe he does.
A Man in Love Will Stop Dating Other Women
Have you and the man you adore discussed dating exclusively yet? Since you’re in love with him it has to be something that 
you think of constantly, right? You want this man all to yourself and if he loved you he’d want the same thing.
If you’ve been hearing rumors through the grapevine that he’s still seeing other women, don’t invest yourself so deeply into the relationship at this point. A man who is truly and deeply in love with a woman won’t want to see anyone else for the simple reason that they just don’t measure up to the woman he adores.
It’s important to discuss the idea of just dating one another with your man and it’s equally important that you pay special attention to his reaction. If he seems highly uncomfortable and repeatedly changes the subject, he’s not ready for anything more than a casual, non-exclusive dynamic.
A Man in Love Will Want You to Be a Part of His World
Most women have dated at least one man who seemed focused on keeping his life a mystery. This can be romantic to a point but when you start feeling as though he’s hiding his friends and family from you it moves into a place of emotional pain.
If a man is serious about a woman he wants to share her with everyone in his life. He wants to announce to those closest to him that he’s found someone beyond special.
Many men are actually a bit wary of introducing their dating partners to their friends simply because they don’t want there to be any awkwardness when they break up. Once a man does make the step towards introductions, that signifies that he has deeper feelings.
If you’ve been together for some time and you have yet to meet anyone in his life, that’s a clear sign that he still views you as someone he’s casually dating. If that’s what you feel, simply ask him about his friends and family and when you might meet them. If he shrugs the question off or says everyone he knows has a very busy life, he’s indicating that he’s not ready to take that step with you yet.
A Man in Love Will Take the Initiative and Express His Feelings
How many times recently have you told your man you love him, only to be greeted with a “me too” in return? It’s a very telling barometer into the heart of any man. Typically a man isn’t going to want to proclaim his deep and abiding love to a woman until he actually feels those emotions. That’s why a man who isn’t completely and utterly in love will often just say, “me too” when the woman he’s with shares her feelings.
If you haven’t been paying attention to this in your own relationship, there’s a very easy test you can do right now that will help you understand where your guy’s heart is. Don’t tell him you love him at all for the next two weeks. Don’t utter the words in speech, don’t write them in text or email and don’t try and be sneaky by slipping in other words to replace “love.” No telling him you adore him or that he’s wonderful or special. Just stop sharing your feelings completely.
Now, all you have to do is wait to see whether he’ll share his. If you go the entire 14 days without him once telling you he loves you, chances are good that he doesn’t.
A man in love wants the woman he’s enamored with to know what he feels. He’ll repeat it as often as he can and he won’t wait for her to express it first.
If your man doesn’t mention what he feels for you unless you say something first, you need to be wary of how much you invest emotionally into your connection with him. Perhaps he’s just not as deeply in love with you yet, but there’s a chance that he’s not in love at all, and if that’s the case you don’t want to put even more of yourself into a relationship that he’s unsure he wants to be in.
Every woman in love obviously wants her man to feel the very same way. There are ways to trigger feelings of deep love and adoration in any man. Most women have no idea how to do this. Please read my story to learn what you can do now to change your relationship forever and get him to love you more than you ever imagined possible.
